Sex and Anger
Is sex directly connected to anger?
Does that contradict sex and love?
These are two questions that have plagued me for a long time.I personally love hard,rough sex but i do not like bondage or sexual acts that involve pain yet there is definately an agressive undertone to most things in the sexual realm
"I wanna smash her"
"I'd like to hit that"
You hear things like this every day,particualry when you are a guy and at that point no contact has even been made.
My arguement is sex is impulsive,passionate,pyshical and there is a frustration that builds before it happens,these are all factors that are common with agression
When i get rough with a woman i dont want to hurt her,in fact its the opposite.Im hoping to pleasure her but it just seems the release that comes with being rough and the pyshical stimulation that comes with going faster urge me to be somewhat violent.
The dialogue of sex is always aggressive too!
How often do you hear a woman that rarely swears become a potty mouth when she has a dick inside her....all the time
Phrases like "fuck me harder", "Smash my little pussy" and "pound me" are common place in most peoples 21st century sex lives.
I have always been of the belief that sex that is forbidden is more arousing and i think this ties back to aggression.
You know you shouldnt be doing it and you know she shouldnt either so you smash her a little harder cause she is being bad.Plus inhibitions go out the window,she isnt the mother of your kids or the love of your life so telling her you are gonna fuck the shit out of her comes easier.....its not like you have to sit and have breakfast with her in the moring.
Some women like the aggression....the others love it!!!!
I am yet to get in bed with a woman and have her tel me to stop doing her hard cause she wants me to be polite.The surge of adrenaline you get puts you in a frame of mind that makes you combative,as i have bloggeed about previously this is the athlete syndrome.Athletes are killers on the field when adrenaline is flowing and can be quite gentle when they are in their normal state.
For men there is always an underlying resentment to how hard it is to get sex,men feel the ball is in the womans court at all times so when a vagina is made available men click into flight mode and things get nasty quickly.
This brings me to a topic i love , a topic that the porn world has exploited to the profit of billions.
Sex with people you dont like and sex that at first is one sided.
Now when i say one sided i do not mean rape,i personally feel rape is the lowest act and all rapists should get the chair
I am talking about the scenes where the guy or girl are reluctant for whatever reason and the other party seduces them till they loosen up and next thing you know they are pounding the hell out of one another.
The new fad with sites like Pornstar Punishment is the idea a man can use sex to punish a woman but as the session continues the woman decides she likes it and gives him the fuck of a lifetime.Its that mix of power and aggression that leads to unbridaled carnal sex.
Case in point ,one of my ex girlfriends had a best friend who always flirted with me and my girlfriend hated it.Now i was not attracted to this girl in the slightest and due in large to the fact i showed that she was often a pain in the arse and spoke badly of me.
Now i will tell you right now i have masturbated and blown like a volcano on so many occasions about the idea of smashing the fuck out of her.
As i am writing this its giving me a hard on
The fantasy always plays out as follows.
I am with my girlfriend and we have a fight,her friend tries to exploit the opportunity by flirting and it annoys the shit out of me.
I take her to a quiet place and tell her "shut your mouth before i put my cock in it"
Next thing you know im violently face fucking her to shut her up and taking out all the aggressions i have built towards her.
When that isnt fun anymore i tell her she is gonna get what she has been waiting for and i rip her pants off and fuck the living hell out of her pussy.What a rush for me! I am pyshically dominating this girl whom i have wanted to punch in the face for years but cant yet my cock is having a great time
I have no respect for her cause she is a bitch and she is happy to be fucking her best friends boyfriend so im rough and uninhibited as i do things to her i would not do to the love of my life.
As soon as i finish i walk away with no interest in how she feels and no remorse cause she is a whore.
It sounds weird but damn what a rush.
The funny thing about this fantasy is you are giving her what she wants yet you feel like you have punished her.
The balance is there cause women like to feel they can make you lose control and many girls ...espcecially the ones with daddy issues .......get a rush off being used and submissive.
Both parties feel kind of guilty and at the same time satisfied.
Now i dont know when that line blurs and bondage,torture and domination become the next level of attraction but i can see the natural progression despite the fact personally it doesnt appeal.
So where does that leave love?
Good question
We all know sex in a marriage is often stale!
Role play can be used and why do we do that?
Its just an excuse to treat your partner like someone else so you can release the shackles and be more forward and aggressive.
Its like most of my discussions i think you need to decide between better sex or love!!!!
There are many things you get from a loving relationship that sex cannot compete with but if your a highly sexual person love cannot offer you the limitless ,guilt free,passionate and often aggressive rush of carnal sex.
You decide
The Blue Collar Aristocrat
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